When pining over the loss of a relationship a few years ago, a dear friend told me that people come into our lives for a reason, a season or a lifetime – and this most recent guy was apparently not the lifetime type.
I have been thinking recently that, for a Renaissance Soul like me, my friend’s words are true not just about people, but about everything else I try. I pursue some interests for a reason, some for a season, and some for a lifetime. Many interests start out in one category, but end up in another.
For example, traditionally, people go to college to study something they think they will do for the rest of their lives. I’m here to tell you that there’s no rule that says you have to do forever that which you studied in college. I’m living proof. I used my physical therapy license for three months after I graduated. Then, I resigned and didn’t have use for that license for the next ten years. What I initially thought would be a lifetime pursuit turned out to be nothing close to that.
I returned to work I’d done one summer while in college – I went back to being a Park Ranger. I loved it. But it’s seasonal work by nature. Yes, there are people who do it full-time, but I didn’t want to be one of those. I didn’t know it at the time, but there was nothing that I wanted to do full-time, year round. It felt entirely too limiting. Pick just one thing and do only that thing? How could I?
What was a seasonal job has turned into a lifetime pursuit, though not in the traditional sense. I developed a love for national parks. I will plan entire trips around them. When I had a job for which I traveled a lot, my first thought when I got my next assignment was “Are there any national parks close by?” I’d go to nps.gov to find out. That’s how I got to see Carlsbad Caverns and Colorado National Monument. (I visited both all by myself – see previous post.)
So try something. Don’t think you have to do it forever. Do it for a reason. When the reason is no longer valid, let it go. Appreciate that it came into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
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Becky, I’ve really enjoyed reading your blog so far-thank you for creating it. It is definitely a very thorough and involved continuation of our conversation in the restaurant. I am impressed with the wealth of information you have to share, the risks you have taken and your commitment to your lifestyle.You are certainly an inspiring example of what you preach and as I approach the changes staring at me head on (some imposed, some chosen) I hope to move about with as much joy,courage and freedom as you demonstrate. How have you become so wise in so short a time, eh Girl?
I have a quote sitting by my computer that I jotted down recently by Agatha Christie that is relevant to your discussion about success (One I wholeheartedly embrace!):
“Most successful people are unhappy. That’s why they are successes-they have to reassure themselves about themselves by achieving something that the world will notice…The happy people are failures because they are on such good terms with themselves that they don’t give a damn.” Yeah Baby-can I have an Amen! Success and failure is all a matter of perspective and the view is so much clearer now…
Take care and see you soon, Kate
A matter of perspective indeed Kate! Now that you mention it, I think a lot of things are “all a matter of perspective.” Happiness and wealth are two more that come to mind. Thanks for sharing your thoughts:)